Before discussing the subject with the gambler, gather information about how gambling problems start and what to do about them. If you or members of your family wish to confront the person, it is important to have support—both from professionals (counsellors) and from backup documentation on gambling. Reading through this site is a great start.
Choose the right time to talk
If the person has just expressed remorse about gambling or has just come off a gambling spree, he or she may be more open to talking. If they rationalize the habit, be prepared to present facts (overdue bills, missed work, etc.) or to end the discussion.
It is also helpful to express feelings from an “I” point of view (“I think that...”) instead of “you,” as this will make the gambler less defensive and reduce the likelihood of arguments.
Be determined
When you bring up the gambling problem, it is best to negotiate and set firm boundaries. Be clear about what you expect in terms of future gambling, managing family finances, and meeting other household responsibilities.
Support positive change
Acknowledge positive steps and give praise for successfully staying away from gambling. Realize that changing any behaviour is a difficult process that can take time. Remember to talk to the person regularly to find out how the recovery is going and if there is anything you can do to help.
