Hello. My boyfriend is a compulsive gambler (video poker machines in bars). We’ve been together for nearly 2 years, and I’ve always known he was addicted.
I truly love this man for who he is, his personality, and our great connection. We’re a happy couple, and have always had a good relationship, except that his gambling, of course, has caused us both repeated heartache.
I handle our finances and control his money (he gave me his debit card). But on payday, he would pay bills, give me what he owed me, and burn through the rest. It got very hard for me to say “no” when he asked for $20 or $30. Then came the fights, the cold shoulder, the tears...
While we usually managed and he never spent huge amounts of money, the problem was scaring me more every day, and I was afraid I would snap. I put a lot of pressure on myself, because I have to help him—and I really want to.
Thank you for letting me know what resources are available for both of us!